We all come up against things in our lives that we would have better forgotten. But is that truly wise? If we make certain choices in our lives, we need to be able to live with those consequences. And those consequences shouldn't be easy to live with. That's what reminds us of what is right and wrong.
I find myself going over all the things that I've done or had done to me in my life. I've always tried very hard never to lay blame at someones doorstep, but to understand the reasons behind what they did. Sometimes the reasons make sense, most of the time they don't. I mean, it would be very easy to sink into a depression or become bitter. But that's not the person I want to be! So why should I fall into that trap?
We, each, make our own happiness. Pain is, also, a part of life. And every incidence in our lives is a lesson learned. It shows us what is true, right and reliable. We can lean on others, but have to rely on ourselves.
The reason all of this has come up is due to certain crisis' in my life recently. Some work related, most personal. I could shake my fist at God, asking why did this have to happen to me or I could pick myself, dust myself off and go on. Go on, thinking about what did happen, how did it come to happen and what can I do to turn that outcome into around, thus making life better for everyone concerned.
For instance, today at work we had someone quit just before a fundraising event. I was left a little bereft and shaken at the work I now had to take on. Could I do it in time (this Friday)? How much more was left to do? But, by the end of the work day....I came to realize that all I could do was my best and trust in those around me to help and give guidance.
Someone else in that situation may have given up or become frustrated or even angry. Why? That seems more a waste of time than just moving forward and doing what you know how to do (plus learning a few new tricks along the way).
So, the cold hard truth is that shit happens! Right?? But, it's not the fact that it happens or happens to you, but how you deal with it. So, hold your head high, do your best and trust that in the end all will be made right. It may take longer than you thought it would or take a different tack all together. But, life goes on and must we. For better or worse, we are all in this together. So, when you see someone having a bad day and being less than congenial, lend a helping hand and not slap them down......that person could be you one day and probably has been already.
Cheers and keep smiling! You are the only one who can truly make you happy. :-)
Monday, April 9, 2012
Friday, March 16, 2012
Moving forward
Ok, it's been a while since I lasted posted. It's been so busy around here! I know, I know, no excuses :-)
But it has been pretty rough lately. Halee isn't doing well in school this year. She's been bullied a great deal. You know, it's tough enough on teenagers/kids who don't have to deal with Aspergers! But when you add that (or any other disorder) to the mix....well. It's tough to handle. So, we're going to put her in private school next year. One that's specifically geared to those with Aspergers. I think she'll feel more comfortable and able to focus on her academics. Let's face it, she only has 2 years left after this year.
And, on top of that, her father and I have been going through a very rough patch of our own. As a parent, you try very hard to not let your kids see or hear anything of what's going on. But, if we're realistic, that's not possible.
On the bright side (and there always is), Halee's now doing more on the computer at home. That's a plus as she's not very proficient or comfortable with it. AND, spring is finally here!!
I love this time of the year! There's just a fresh smell to the air and everything is blooming. Halee is in a therapy group with other girls her own age who have Aspergers. It's really good for her. She smiles more! That's the one thing she doesn't do as much as she did when she was younger. I noticed that when going through some old photos the other day. I miss her smile! I mean, I'm so much the optimist and she's completely opposite. That's so hard! I want to see things as they are, not as we perceive them. Life is always filled with ups and downs. It's how we grow and gain knowledge.
Sometimes....no, most of the time, you have to look to the simple things in life. Those are what mean the most. Like earlier tonight, I sat and watched a thunderstorm roll through. Most people would just say...Rain, again! And, it's true, it's rained a lot lately on the east coast. But, then again, stop and see how the rain drops hit the windows. How the wind moves through the trees. It's really refreshing. You can feel the afternoon heat leave the air as the storm cools everything down. And, tomorrow morning, more flowers will be in bloom and the birds will be singing. People, that's FREE!!
So, no matter how tough life gets....there will always be an upside! And the first place you need to look to for that is yourself. It's there, always has been and always will be.
So, ciao for now and enjoy St. Patrick's Day weekend everyone!!!
But it has been pretty rough lately. Halee isn't doing well in school this year. She's been bullied a great deal. You know, it's tough enough on teenagers/kids who don't have to deal with Aspergers! But when you add that (or any other disorder) to the mix....well. It's tough to handle. So, we're going to put her in private school next year. One that's specifically geared to those with Aspergers. I think she'll feel more comfortable and able to focus on her academics. Let's face it, she only has 2 years left after this year.
And, on top of that, her father and I have been going through a very rough patch of our own. As a parent, you try very hard to not let your kids see or hear anything of what's going on. But, if we're realistic, that's not possible.
On the bright side (and there always is), Halee's now doing more on the computer at home. That's a plus as she's not very proficient or comfortable with it. AND, spring is finally here!!
I love this time of the year! There's just a fresh smell to the air and everything is blooming. Halee is in a therapy group with other girls her own age who have Aspergers. It's really good for her. She smiles more! That's the one thing she doesn't do as much as she did when she was younger. I noticed that when going through some old photos the other day. I miss her smile! I mean, I'm so much the optimist and she's completely opposite. That's so hard! I want to see things as they are, not as we perceive them. Life is always filled with ups and downs. It's how we grow and gain knowledge.
Sometimes....no, most of the time, you have to look to the simple things in life. Those are what mean the most. Like earlier tonight, I sat and watched a thunderstorm roll through. Most people would just say...Rain, again! And, it's true, it's rained a lot lately on the east coast. But, then again, stop and see how the rain drops hit the windows. How the wind moves through the trees. It's really refreshing. You can feel the afternoon heat leave the air as the storm cools everything down. And, tomorrow morning, more flowers will be in bloom and the birds will be singing. People, that's FREE!!
So, no matter how tough life gets....there will always be an upside! And the first place you need to look to for that is yourself. It's there, always has been and always will be.
So, ciao for now and enjoy St. Patrick's Day weekend everyone!!!
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