Cold Hard Truth

We all come up against things in our lives that we would have better forgotten.  But is that truly wise?  If we make certain choices in our lives, we need to be able to live with those consequences.  And those consequences shouldn't be easy to live with.  That's what reminds us of what is right and wrong.

I find myself going over all the things that I've done or had done to me in my life.  I've always tried very hard never to lay blame at someones doorstep, but to understand the reasons behind what they did.  Sometimes the reasons make sense, most of the time they don't.  I mean, it would be very easy to sink into a depression or become bitter.  But that's not the person I want to be!  So why should I fall into that trap?

We, each, make our own happiness.  Pain is, also, a part of life.  And every incidence in our lives is a lesson learned.  It shows us what is true, right and reliable.  We can lean on others, but have to rely on ourselves.

The reason all of this has come up is due to certain crisis' in my life recently.  Some work related, most personal.  I could shake my fist at God, asking why did this have to happen to me or I could pick myself, dust myself off and go on.  Go on, thinking about what did happen, how did it come to happen and what can I do to turn that outcome into around, thus making life better for everyone concerned.

For instance, today at work we had someone quit just before a fundraising event.  I was left a little bereft and shaken at the work I now had to take on.  Could I do it in time (this Friday)?  How much more was left to do?  But, by the end of the work day....I came to realize that all I could do was my best and trust in those around me to help and give guidance.

Someone else in that situation may have given up or become frustrated or even angry.  Why?  That seems more a waste of time than just moving forward and doing what you know how to do (plus learning a few new tricks along the way).

So, the cold hard truth is that shit happens!  Right??  But, it's not the fact that it happens or happens to you, but how you deal with it.  So, hold your head high, do your best and trust that in the end all will be made right.  It may take longer than you thought it would or take a different tack all together.  But, life goes on and must we.  For better or worse, we are all in this together.  So, when you see someone having a bad day and being less than congenial, lend a helping hand and not slap them down......that person could be you one day and probably has been already.

Cheers and keep smiling!  You are the only one who can truly make you happy.  :-)